After a While…


They say you’re never too old too learn..all of life’s happiness begins with a decision. We are far more powerful than we realize and we also create everything that happens in our own lives. Once we fully acknowledge this , and take responsibility for it , we can do anything that we set our minds to. We are the author of our own lives , and we can choose to take it in any direction we wish.  I love to read about building our lives for the better and have read all of Dr. Wayne W Dyer’s books and literature. It is the most uplifting and spiritual journey towards a better you and am sharing an extract that truly stuck in my mind and has helped me so much.  It is called “After a while” by Veronica Shoffstall.


After a while you learn          

the subtle difference between holding a hand and changing a soul

and you learn

that love doesn’t mean leaning

and company doesn’t always mean security.

And you learn

that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises

and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead

with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child

and you learn

to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is

too uncertain for plans

and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn

that even sunshine burns if you get too much

so you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul

instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really  can endure

you really are strong

you really have worth

and you learn

and you learn

with every goodbye , you learn…


42 Responses to “After a While…”

  1. KorimLiat Says:

    I like this post a lot, especially the photo, and I share your interest in reading about how to build our lives, as you said. I look forward to reading your next posts.

  2. We truly must take responsibility for our own happiness. No individual can supply all of the needs of another. We must live and let live in this world. You give of yourself to others without demanding return. God will bless your richly. Thank you for sharing. The image is lovely, Amanda.

    • We learn these lessons as we grow older and wiser…I always say I never want to be any younger….I am happy for what life has taught me up till now. What do you think? Mwah xx

  3. Step by step…one smile at a time. 🙂 I have had fun catching up on your posts. Between the recipes and the music, I have gained weight and then lost it dancing. lol 🙂 Your poems are always beautifully written, from your heart. I hope you are planning on having a great week. I hope you are planning on smiling often. 🙂 Thank you for your visits. I love seeing ya. 🙂

    • Having you here dearest Luisa, makes me want to dance around too!! It’s been the most wonderful sunny weekend, I am energized for this week and your comments make me want to dance even more!! I hope yours is everything you want it to be too dear friend….you are so special and always find the time to visit and encourage everyone!! That is invaluable…you truly are a shining light and I am honored to know you!! Your forever friend and fan ~ Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  4. DiamondsAndDogs Says:

    This was very moving. My favorite line was “you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul”

    Regards …

  5. So true, Amanda! With every (and I mean EACH AND EVERY) experience, there is something to learn… how we learn it, how we perceive it, and what we make out of that learning – it’s ours! How we shape it – is also ours!
    Everything has a good and evil to it… making it good or making it evil is upto us. If we get bogged down by treacherous tides and murky waters, we will mold it into something vile possibly… but if we see with a neutral eye, we could be the best potters in the world!
    Thanks for sharing such lovely thoughts with us, Amanda…
    You sure KNOW how to lift our spirits, and make us look into ourselves and rediscover the I in us… cuz it’s that I that can make many WEs and US… and with that US, the world automatically becomes a much better place to live in…
    Many hugs to you, sweetheart, for such an inspiring post!!!

    • Baby baby…where does the time go…I am sooooo far behind in replying and visits but am here now…and you are right…the word US makes the world a much better place!! I always stive for the more positive in life and if I can help inspiring someone coming here and read something uplifting, my heart warms and it makes me happy!! And I want to point out that you have that same attitude and special gift to do that wherever you go…I see where you go and what you mean to so many here. It is invaluable Kavita and I am not just saying that to be nice. I see what you do here and it is a wonderful thing…you are a warmhearted loving soul that spreads love and good wherever you go!! Never ever doubt anything you do in life!! I am so very happy to have met you and want you in my life forever!! Your life will be blessed because of who you are! I thank you for that….from my heart….but…most of all….I LOVE YOU DEAR FRIEND oxoxoxoxox

      • OKAY…this really brought tears to my eyes, girl…
        Thank you for your kindness.. I will definitely try to put in my best, even if it means anything to even ONE reader! I am blessed to have such a faithful and genuine friend in you, girl… you have no idea! And I really mean it! Reading your blog, comments is becoming second nature to me… and I eagerly look forward to seeing more from you… If blogging is the medium we have to “meet”, I really don’t mind it (Although I WOULD LOVE TO MEET YOU IN PERSON TOO) … he most important thing is, I feel connecte to you.. and that itself is a very very good and warm feeling..
        So, thanks for being there, and stay as you are! Cuz YOU ROCK!!! 😀
        Lotsa love…

      • I feel connected to you too dear Kavita…and hopefully we will meet in person one day!! It warms my heart to have a friend in you…people come into our lives always for a reason!! Sending you loads of love…it’s Tuesday here already!! Mwah Mwah Mwah xxx

  6. An excellent post, Amanda. However, I don’t like the goodbyes…never have, they usually hurt, and they always deal with the past, but you do indeed learn from them. Hellos are better. They’re all about the future and possibilities. One of these days one might have a hello that doesn’t end in goodbye…just saying, it could happen.

    Tracy H

  7. We do learn. Some lessons are easier than others. I keep wishing I were a better learner. – Bill

    • Don’t we all Bill…but the wonderful thing is that we can embrace this wonderful life we have…and learn as we go along. I so appreciate you being here…from the heart. Have a great week ahead my dear friend ~ Amanda x

  8. Very nice and profound. Thank you for sharing.

    And for you:

    Thank you for being my friend.

    • Morganna….wow…I am honored and very proud to receive this from you my dear friend!!!! I will put it up on my awards page….you are a very special lady and I am so very happy to call you my friend!! Love always ~ Hugssssssssssss xxxx

  9. divine…….spellbound…..

    with every goodbye , you learn…to unlearn……to earn freedom….

    love all…..


    awards are fun,
    viola lost her husband,
    I lost a general friend,
    all together,
    please visit and give love to them…

    • Jingle, it really shocked me today to read about Viola’s husband…we have to treasure our lives every single day….I want you to know that you are a wonderful person…I am so happy to have you in my life, you are the most inspiring lady and I value your friendship. (I actually wish I could meet you in person or that you lived closer:) 🙂 🙂 Sending you many hugs and love my friend xxxx

  11. smart you,
    i always get impressed by your stunning spirits and beautiful words.

  12. I needed this today.
    Thank you my friend.

  13. that was really motivating 🙂 I needed to read something like that thanks !
    I really like your blog 🙂

    • Aww….thanks so very much for being here…I truly appreciate your comment and it warms my heart that you came to visit. I certainly will return the compliment. Thanks once again my dear friend ~ Amanda xx

  14. Amanda..thank you for sharing this…your timing always seems to be right! xx

  15. “all of life’s happiness begins with a decision. We are far more powerful than we realize and we also create everything that happens in our own lives”
    I truly believe this Amanda- the decisions we make create our story. And we are powerful enough to determine the direction of our lives. Thank you for reminding this once again 🙂 And thank you for sharing that lovely poem;
    “you learn
    to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is
    too uncertain for plans
    and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.”
    Very inspiring, true words…

    • You are such a wonderful spirit and have a beautiful soul my dear Lua…I could not have defined it any better…I am proud and honored to csall you a friend. Thanks so very much and I am sending you loads and loads of love ~ xxxxx

  16. Thanks for sharing this with us, Amanda, so full of wisdom 🙂

  17. I think in another life, you were a motivational coach. Or have you considered writing a motivational book? Everything you write oozes optimism and truly appreciate the beauty in life and seem to constantly strive to better yourself. More people should be like you Amanda!

    I think the image you have used with this post is definately my favourite so far…the butterfly really helps convey the strong messages of your post…learning and new beginnings.

    Have a lovely day 🙂 xx

    • LOL…you think so? No, I am not such s good writer but go to a lot of seminars, maybe thats where my inspiration comes from. Thanks Chloe….you rock girlfriend xxxxx {{{Hugs}}}

  18. This is 5 star Poetry. I think the best I’ve read from you. It touched my soul, held its hands and danced with it leaving me with a smile, knowing that at least in an ignorant world, we have brains and you are one of them. I so love this. Write on, dear one.

    Have a super August and a wonderful week.

    Super Cheers!

    • Thank god for that…with open eyes we will conquer!!! I am so glad you liked this, hope your August will be good too!! I am happy…not long till spring!!!! Yeahhhh oxox

  19. Amanda, this is outstanding, a well wrought poem with a wise message. Wonderful. Thank you! 🙂

  20. This is a beautiful inspirational message for all of us and thank you, Amanda for sharing it with us. Sorry I’ve been away for a few days…am now catching up. I, too, love what I’ve read and seen from Wayne Dyer. Does this Veronica Shoffstall have a book? Happy Day, dear friend. heartspell

    • I’ve missed you birthday girl…Veronica Shoffstall writes poems and does not have a book that I know of but Wayne Dyer uses her quotes and poetry quite often, which I just love! I hope you get spoilt heaps and that you’ll have the best day my friend. Happy to see you here again. Lots of love and extra hugs and kisses on your special day xxx

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